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2016 New Year Resolutions and Vision Boards

The start of a new year is an opportune time to reflect on and review what you have, or have not accomplished so far in your life and indeed, the year that has just passed.

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It is the time of year, when you tell yourself it’s finally time to declutter, clear out your wardrobe and sell those size 8 dresses you have had for 25 years, that you’ve been reluctant to get rid off, but time to get real…you’ve been a size 14/16 for the past 10 years…and anyway vintage is on trend so some young hipster will snap them up surely – if you auction them on Ebay or set up an online shop on Etsy.  You could use the money to give your living space a makeover, buy some seeds to start growing your own vegetables, or use it to pay for the piano lessons you’ve been dreaming of taking since way back.

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Perhaps in 2016 you will get brave and transition from your secure but no longer fulfilling day job to become a mobile beauty therapist; divorce your husband; try out online dating; take up chakra dancing; pilates or whatever….it’s that time of the year…….to dream big!

But, according to Professor of Psychology and author of ’59 Seconds: Think a Little, Change a Lot’, Richard Wiseman, all too often New Year’s resolutions fail because people try to do too much too soon and don’t seek the right support to help them achieve their goals and advises us of 10 ways to keep our New Year Resolutions;-

  • One Thing At A Time – many of us make the mistake of trying to achieve too much instead of deciding on what is important to us and making just one resolution.  The chance of success is greater when we channel our energy into changing a single aspect of our behaviour at a time. 
  • Plot Your Success – find a way of charting your achievements. Keep a journal, or cover your fridge or notice board with graphs or pictures.
  • Try Something New – repeating resolutions you have failed to keep before is a recipe for disappointment. Set a new goal, or approach an old aim in a new way. For example, instead of trying to lose a set amount of weight, vow to exercise more.
  • Be Specific – think about exactly what you are going to do, where and when. Vague plans fail.  For example, instead of saying that you will go running on two days each week, decide you will run on Tuesdays and Thursdays straight after work.
  • Set S.M.A.R.T Goals – make sure your goals are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-based (SMART). For example, instead of simply saying you want to find a new job, come up with bite-sized goals for each week, such as rewriting your CV then applying for a job each week.  Map out small steps that will slowly but surely take you to where you want to be, write them down and stick to the plan.
  • Carrot, Not Stick – motivate yourself by focusing on the positive, rather than beating yourself up about your failings. Think how much better life will be for you, and those around you, when you achieve your aims.
  • Go Public – many of us prefer to keep our New Year’s resolutions to ourselves. Unfortunately, this makes it all too easy to simply forget about them. Instead, go public. Write down your resolution on a large sheet of paper, sign it, and place it somewhere prominent in your home.  Tell your friends, family and workmates and ask them to support you. For example, if you want to lose weight, ask colleagues not to offer you biscuits with your tea.
  • Be Persistent – new habits take time to learn, and once in a while you will slip up and revert to the old you. Most of us give in to temptation occasionally, whether it is a cream cake or a crafty cigarette.
  • Get Image Conscious – visualise yourself doing whatever you need to do to achieve your resolution. Focusing on this image will help you believe in your ability to succeed.
  • Be Positive – you will get better results from thinking about the good things that will come from your new lifestyle rather than the negative aspects of your old habits.  

What will you be doing or using to help you attain your goals for 2016? Who will support you?

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If you are feeling stuck, directionless, or lacking inspiration and need some support why not book yourself onto to my Create a Vision Board for 2016 Workshop on Saturday, 16th January in London.  You will spend the morning in a supportive environment, clarifying and sharing your ideas/dreams with others and have fun creating your own personalised vision board which you will take away with you to inspire and motivate you into taking action towards achieving your goals and fulfilling your 2016 resolutions.

Well, what are you waiting for?  Click on the link below for further details:

Create a Vision Board Workshop

See you there x

Six Steps to Reclaiming your Muchness

Do you wake up in the morning feeling lethargic and uninspired as you realise that today will be pretty much a repeat of yesterday, the week before and in fact, the year before?

Close-up of a tensed woman lying besides man in bed at home (Bigstock image)

Are you struggling to find a sense of purpose or direction? Do you wish that you could do something exciting or make an impact someway, somewhere, somehow?

If so then it sounds very much to me like you have lost your ‘muchness’.  Muchness is a term said to date from the 14th century and it was later widely attributed to Shakespeare.  In Tim Burton’s film adaptation of Alice in Wonderland a now grown up Alice is told by the dormouse at The Mad Hatter’s tea party: “You’re not the same as you were before.  You were much more….muchier.  You’ve lost your muchness.”

The dormouse was trying to tell Alice that on her first visit down the rabbit hole as a young child she used to be so much more courageous, curious, imaginative and full of a zest for life.   If like Alice, you too feel you have lost your muchness (your mojo, your joie de vivre), here are my 6 steps to help you get it back.

Feed your inner child

As we grow older we can get weighed down with responsibilities and being dutiful.  Very often our daily life is spent doing what others want us to do – whether this is one’s boss, peers, parents, children or partner.   Life then seems oh, so serious.  Can you remember as a child what gave you joy?  What made you laugh with abandoned glee?  What games did you play or did you read, draw, dress up, collect things or bake cakes?  Did you like to jump and make big splashes in puddles and climb trees?  Do you still do any of these things?  I bet not.

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Next time you are in or near a park and see some swings, go on and have a go.  If this is not possible due to where you live, or you are physically impaired or disabled, find an activity you can do such as watching your favourite childhood movie, or read/listen to childhood adventure classics.  Creating collage art tags is one activity I enjoy doing. It involves getting lost within my imagination and shutting out the outside world, losing all sense of time, as I create a mess and dabble with paints, magazine cuttings, scraps of lace, etc, and glue things onto a canvas or card.  And oh, I can’t tell you how many times I have watched The Wizard of Oz or Mary Poppins 🙂

Is your inner child crying out to be fed?  Well, go feed her and don’t forget to hop, skip and jump down that yellow brick road!  It really is so much easier to cope with the stresses of everyday life if you have a smile on your face and are feeling happier and more relaxed within yourself.

To thine own self be true

The beliefs and values you hold about the world around you and yourself, can really limit or liberate you.  Take time to check-in and ask yourself whether these beliefs are your own or someone else’s.  Where did they come from and how old are they.  Are they the values and beliefs of yourself 15 or 20 years ago?  Are they beliefs and values held by your parents, partner, or next door neighbour, which you’ve accepted and adopted but never questioned?  When was the last time you personally did something you really wanted to do and not something that was expected of you by someone else?  Check out my post  ‘She Yearned to Be An Artist’.  Time to be true to you, don’t you think?

Create ME time

Often we are so caught up with work demands and office politics, household chores or the nurturing of others that we can end up feeling constantly stressed out or tired.  It is so important to have some time just for ourselves, whether this is to take a nice long, undisturbed relaxing and pampering bath every evening (instead of a rushed shower), or taking time out to go to a weekly knitting class.  I and many other Life Coaches use a diagnostic tool called the Wheel of Life, to enable our clients to get a visual and graphical snapshot of the different areas of their lives as it is now, to enable them to assess what is off balance.  If you would like to try this exercise, contact me and I will forward you a Wheel of Life worksheet with instructions that you can print out and complete for your own use.

Attractive Young Gorges Female Taking Bath

Be bold

“Freedom lies in being bold” ~ Robert Frost

Does this one sound scary?  Start small!  How about you wear something you wouldn’t normally wear – a tutu perhaps (yes go on, even if it is only indoors……and yes, I am going to get one too, I’ve wanted one for years!).  You will be, I am sure,  surprised by how liberating and free this small act will make you feel and hopefully it will spur you on to try something else bold, and then something else……..and yes, go on……something else……

Visualise and bloom

“I’d rather regret the things I’ve done, than the things I haven’t done”. ~ Lucille Ball

Always wanted to write a best selling novel?  Or perhaps you’ve discovered that you are really quite good at baking and decorating cakes and friends and family commission you to make them for special occasions. You daydream about leaving your stressful non-fulfilling day job to set up a business making and selling them.  What is stopping you? What steps do you need to take to achieve having your own business or writing and publishing your bestseller?  Get yourself a notebook and brainstorm.  Why not create a vision board to inspire and motivate you into taking action (see here for guidance).

Finally…..

Always wear a tiara

“Every woman who is a queen simply knew she could be one, and everyone else is still pretending she can’t”.  ~ Marianne Williamson

Did you know that Saturday 24th May is International Tiara Day?  It is a day for women to celebrate and embrace being empowered leaders in control of their own lives.  You don’t have to wait ‘till then, you can make or buy one to wear now – you see, you are special and uniquely you – you are a queen.  Lift up those drooping shoulders, hold your head up high, put on your tiara and boldly go reclaim your muchness!

me wearing a tiara

I’d love to know what steps you have taken or are taking to reclaim your muchness, do leave a comment!  And, do share this post with your friends on Facebook, Google+ or Twitter.